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Just curious if any of you know anyone who did. I've heard of people who do but never talked to someone who actually did.

I did not "know" them but I did meet someone once at a meeting. (MtF) she detransitioned because of family pressure and being distraught by verbal/emotional attacks by them about it. HOWEVER when I met her she had still transitioned again, this time cutting herself off from the family.

Evan_J, on May 11 2010, 07:46 PM, said:

That sounds like a horrific experience.

Ashley, Hon.......

There are two members here that de-transitioned...both MTF and one of them did it twice and still ended up female...

Both of those members no longer come around...One of them I talked to many times...

I know that it's not an option for me for ANY reason.....
Gives me the creeps just to think about it!

Donna Jean

Pól, on May 11 2010, 07:49 PM, said:

I left out the breakdown in between because she detransitioned

yikes. i have heard of this but never met anyone who did it.
i can imagine it would be totally traumatic.


peace&love

Lynn, my therapist says she has worked with over one hundred of us. Only one backed out - quiting HRT. He was older and his wife was so distressed he could not forgive himself for leaving her - wow! She isn't sure what happened after he stopped coming to therapy. I use the 'he' pronoun. Donno

lizzy

Hi Ashley

We all read the story of the sportscaster in LA who detrans'd and then committed suicide. Plenty scary. The moral of the story might be to think long and hard before you make that first step 'cause there's no turning back.

Still thinking,

Love, Kat

If you go into the Mormon section here there is a person who transitioned and transitioned back. You can find a diary of his entire journey. The reason he transitioned back was because of his strong religious beliefs. His gender dysphoria came back in full force, but he has learned to live with it.

Susan

Forgot about Allison - maybe the TGirl Dee Jay is mentioning. She transitioned early - back before anyone knew anything about TS. Then she had to play male to get into the college she wanted. Then she went back to full time female - and if I have the story right - had to detransition to get the job she wanted, but ended up getting through full transition - married what she calls a butch lesbian, went through good times and bad, then 11 years of depression, and now is living relatively happy life as a woman. And she is a woman. She looks and acts the part. She was just waaaaaay ahead of her time.

I don't know if this counts.

Lizzy

Ashley hon,

Sadly this does happen sometimes. Since transitioning is such a profound experience, I suspect that some people find that the realities of transitioning are far more daunting than what they thought they would be... they detransition. This is why it is so very important to be truely honest with one's feelings and their discussions with their therapist. For some, I am afraid that they think that transitioning is a panacea and all will be right with themselves and the world after transitioning. What they seem to not recognize is that life before transitioning is very much still your life after transitioning (especially for older people). If one embraces their past as the "other" gender and accepts that their realized gender is a continuation of life that includes the past, transitioning will be smoother.

For some, the social pressures are too great and they back off from being themselves to appease others who are around them.

Transitioning is more life changing than can be imagined. It is very important to take transitioning with careful, deliberate, and honest steps.

Transitioning is a very personal experience and should never be compared to others.

Transitioning is never a competition.

Love

Brenda

My father detransitioned. He was full time of over 2 years and was on HRT for well over a year. His was caused by my mother's pressuring him that he is a freak, sinning, ridiculous, etc.

He is now living a very pain filled miserable existence.

janis

I did long ago. it is a long a painful story with a suicide try and me winding up on the street. I didn't have a choice. it was back in the late 70's
Kelly

Janis, on May 11 2010, 10:04 PM, said:

Janis.....

Honey, I feel very badly for your father's situation....

It's a sad story....

HUGGS!

Donna Jean

Doodle and Janis,

Both of your answers were so unexpected!!! It goes to show how serious this issue really is. I am afraid that at some point in the future I will be like the person who stops taking their antibiotics because they're feeling better only to become ill again and possibly worse as Doodle pointed out.


Huggs,

I know two MTF locally that detransitioned.
One was drop dead beautiful.She/both,made
the choice that it was better to live in their birth
gender and keep their family and spouse,keep
their employment,than to be alone as a woman.
Haven't seen either of them in two years.They
cut all ties with the TG/TS community.

Myself,I could not see me putting myself through
the pain and anguish of trying to retake a role I
so willingly walked away from.And after all these
years,for me to walk away from being so happy,
feeling so right,would be next to impossible.

Angie

me and my therapist have spoken of detransition before (not for me ) sometimes we run out of stuff to talk about and she has been doing gender therapy for 15 years. so i like to pick her brain on certian issues

any way. in her time doing this. she said that only a hand full of the transsexuals she has seen personally, make it to the legal portion of transition. name changed ect ect and only 2 or 3, made it all the way to srs and one of them commited suicide.
that is just the ones that made it that far. the others she calls detransitioners or half hearted transitioners

the three main causes for it she has come up with are: 1. family and peer pressure, most transsexuals are too tender hearted to be selfish enough to transition. they let the needs and concerns of family and friends over shadow, what they really want. we have all heard it before " what will so and so think ? " or " what will this do to our children ?!!" things of that nature, and never get the backbone to just tell them "this is me this is what im doing you can come with or stay put" 2. passing and integration issues, some have unrealistic ideas of what is acheivable for them. hrt ffs and body shaping surgery can only do so much, then the task of fitting in as your new gender role. having to unlearn years or decades of living a totally diffrent life. 3 transition is just simply not the fantasy they had built it up to be in thier heads, your now a woman........ and still have all the problems you had before, nothing asides from your outward apperance changes. there are no fluffy clouds or rainbows and not many testicles to wear pretty pretty princess dresses too.

they are all sound theories. the girls i have met both here and in real life. that sucessfully live as women (and men for the ftms i know ) have a bit of ice water in their viens. their head and their butt wired on fairly tight and a clear focus on their goal and let nothing or no one stand in there way, my hats off to the ones that can over come all the road blocks red tape and BS and come threw the other side knowing who they are and were they are going and still manage to have a big smile on thier face

Sakura

Donna Jean, on May 12 2010, 10:47 AM, said:

Donna Jean,

I pity my father, but I have become rather cold hearted toward his situation. As I have stated in the past my parents want me to fail. They do not approve of my transition and feel that I need to stop "for the family". He refuses to have discussions with me about my life that do not revolve around quitting. I think there is a part o him that is succumbing to my mothers pressure again and I believe there is an equal part that is insanely envious that I am supported and successful.

Sorry to inject some bile into the conversation. It is a sad story but the best I can do it pity him.

Janis

To me, in my opinion. The whole detransitioning thing sounds like a truly horrifying experience. I mean transitioning itself looks like such a hard road to go down, to go back... I just don't know. Thankfully the 2 people whose opinions on this whole thing I actually care about are very accepting of me. Maybe not the trans thing but they accept it as my choice so I assume I will never have to think about going down that road. I do feel for those that do though. This is just making me sound now

Sometimes in my moments of progesterone induced depressions, I get hysterical and start to panic about things and that leads me to start thinking about detransitioning. A day later, I come to my senses and remember that I've been living full time for about a year and a half now and have not had a single incident or problem and remember just how much I LOVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! being a woman.